DATING ADVICE
“If a guy pays for everything on the first date, should I offer to pay for something next time?”
You can do that if you want. It’s a thoughtful gesture that shows you want to actively contribute to the relationship.
However, expectations are different for every couple, depending on your personality, financial capacities, and cultural context.
Some men consider it their love language and responsibility, while some women think it undermines their financial capacity. Some cultures expect men to shoulder all the expenses, while others think that doing so undermines women’s independence.
If you’re unsure what to do, talk with him about it. You can agree on a system that respects both your values. For example, you can take turns paying. Or, if he wants and it doesn’t bother you, you can let him pay for your dates.
It’s on a case-to-case basis. Be open-minded and find a way that works for both of you.
