Why Men Stop Putting in the Effort
Is it because of boredom? Because they fall out of love? Or is it because they are constantly invalidated that they have no choice but to stop pursuing the women they care about?
A person’s behavior changes for a million reasons. We change through different circumstances, whether good or bad, allowing us to learn and grow.
In relationships, an individual can change for the better or for the worse.
For instance, they may have gone all out with showing acts of service but have suddenly stopped doing so.
This could have detrimental effects on the relationship, and the one who gives up would bear all the responsibility.
And in this society, men have a reputation for being the ones who often go wrong. Oftentimes, they are branded as liars and cheaters, especially when they start to change in the relationship.
For instance, they’re often painted as the bad guy when they stop putting in the effort, with their partners saying that they have exposed their true nature or they don’t love their partner anymore.
But that’s not always the case.
Sometimes, men change because they need to.
Knowing how to make a relationship work isn’t rocket science. Everyone knows that it requires love, commitment, and patience for it to thrive.
However, there’s one thing that couples often forget — appreciation.
Appreciation is a key indicator of love and care in the relationship. For instance, if your partner has been going above and beyond for you, you should acknowledge their efforts and thank them to make them feel valued.
Now, as a dating coach, I noticed that a lack of appreciation leads to various relationship problems.
One time, a client of mine told me that he has stopped exerting effort in the relationship because no matter what he did, he wasn’t appreciated.
Despite being busy at work, he devoted all his time and attention to his partner. He cooked her meals and even bought stuff she enjoys, but he has never received a single “thank you” for his efforts.
He loved his partner very much, but he couldn’t deny that he was being taken for granted, so he had no other choice but to change.
He stopped exerting the same amount of effort to see if his partner would notice, but she didn’t. So he realized that she really didn’t care for him at all.
As for him, if his absence didn’t bother her, then his presence never mattered.
Making your partner feel valued matters.
Do you know the secret to why relationships between some old couples last? It’s because they still love and appreciate each other no matter how much time has passed.
To everyone in relationships, go ahead and make your partner feel special.
Express a tender touch or give compliments, anything really. After all, it doesn’t take much to appreciate your partner.
