Men Will Gravitate to Where They’re Wanted
Hi, everyone!
For those of you who don’t know me yet, I’m Mae-Khao Chuan, and I’m from Thailand. I work as a writer and dating consultant for an international matchmaking site.
I’ve been exploring relationship subjects for quite some time now, specifically interracial relationships. Recently, I saw a comment that came from a Reddit post that highly resonated with me. I thought I’d share it with you.
Post: Telling unsuccessful men that young women in impoverished countries only want them for their money is pointless.
Comment: When I travel to another city in the United States, I can open a dating app and within 24 hours have 10–15 likes in my queue, and they are usually likes that I will not like back.
When I travel to another country (particularly Asian and Latin American countries), I am flooded with 40–50 likes in the same time period, and the vast majority of them are incredibly attractive.
You can’t simply wave these things away when the difference is night and day. Men will gravitate towards areas where they are desired.
Although Thailand has come a long way from being a poor country, there is still a belief that women here are choosing foreign men for their money, and that those foreign men come here to exploit young women.
To illustrate, allow me to share Jake’s story.
Jake is a friend of a long-time client of mine. He had met his Thai girlfriend through an international matchmaking service, and it was his success that inspired his friend to try matchmaking.
Although Jake and his girlfriend are now happy together, their journey wasn’t easy.
Jake was criticized by some of his friends for looking for a foreign woman. They thought that perhaps he was just looking for someone he can take advantage of. If that wasn’t the case, he’d be settling with someone from their home country already.
But that wasn’t what Jake wanted. He had tried dating locally and it hadn’t worked for him. So he tried online dating to find someone compatible with him.
That was how he met Mai, a Thai woman with an open mind and an adventurous spirit.
Like Jake, Mai hadn’t found her luck with local men, so she joined a matchmaking site. According to her, she was willing to put her heart on the line anyway, so why shouldn’t she try all the options?
To get to the point, they discovered that they were compatible with each other, so they decided to take things to the next level.
Jake flew to Thailand and asked Mai to be his girlfriend. Of course, they received mixed reactions from their friends and family. Some were happy, but others were judging them for their choice.
Despite it all, they proved to everyone that love beyond borders can work. You just have to be patient and put in the effort and it will be worth it in the end.
Stop judging people for doing what’s good for them.
As they say, people will gravitate to where they are wanted. And we often see this in relationships where couples choose each other because each makes the other feel accepted and understood.
And that’s exactly what Jake and Mai did.
They were and still are simply doing what’s best for them. So who are we to judge and try to stop them?
