LIFE & LOVE
Love Is an Illusion Only If You Strive for Perfection
Why are you still single?
Apologies for being so intrusive, but it’s time you seriously reflect on the answer to this question.
Are you still not over your last relationship? Do you have no time to date because you’re so busy with work?
Or perhaps you’re jaded. Like many others, you believe love is an illusion because you can’t find your ideal woman out of over a billion on this planet.
If you’re looking for little Ms. Perfect, I’m not surprised your search is in vain. You’re looking for someone who doesn’t exist, and it’s time you stop.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting the best person for you. But the best partner won’t be a replica of the girl of your dreams.
Give up chasing that perfect catch. Instead, open your eyes to imperfect but real women.
The Good Exists with the Bad
It’s good to know what you’re looking for in a woman. And it’s also usual to be attracted to certain traits more than others. However, realize that every person has a good and bad side.
She may have the perfect figure, but she doesn’t understand your jokes. You may have similar interests and hobbies, but she’s not emotionally mature. Or she may be intelligent and funny, but you’re often at each other’s throats.
This isn’t always bad. What matters is that you know your non-negotiables and are willing to work through the creases. If you like them for their admirable traits, you should accept the challenging parts of them as well.
Making Mistakes Is Normal
While you may meet someone with whom you get along well, be aware that sooner or later, they will inevitably make mistakes and even hurt you — intentionally or unintentionally.
Does this mean that love is an illusion? Not at all. It just means that you’re dating someone human.
Don’t expect your partner to never do anything wrong. Often, the people closest to you hurt you the most because you expect them to understand you.
This isn’t an excuse to justify bad behavior, but a reminder to give each other room for mistakes, forgiveness, and self-improvement.
Be patient because, no matter how seemingly flawless your partner is, they’re as capable of making faults as you are.
A Relationship is a Work in Progress
A partner doesn’t need to be perfect because a relationship is a work in progress.
It doesn’t come ready-made. You don’t just open a box, take out your partner, and have nothing to do but enjoy the rest of your lives.
On the contrary, you continuously build a relationship through love, trust, and hard work. It’s a lifetime process of discovering each other, overcoming challenges, and learning to love each other better.
Reality Is Better than Your Dreams
It’s not bad for you to have an ideal woman in mind when you date. However, don’t focus on checking all the boxes on your checklist. You’ll only disappoint yourself and believe that love is an illusion.
If you’re interested in someone, get to know them more and avoid putting them in a box. Once you accept and love them as they are, you’ll eventually see that reality is better than your dreams.
