RELATIONSHIPS
Long Distance Relationship Problems and How to Overcome Them
“Distance cannot quench the flame of true love; it only fans it higher.”
How true is this?
Every relationship faces challenges. No matter how committed you are to each other, conflicts arise due to differences in personalities, miscommunications, and mistakes. But more so when you live far apart.
However, long distance relationship problems aren’t necessarily bad.
According to Earthweb, 60% of long distance couples eventually experience successful long-term results after the challenges they face. And it all boils down to how you deal with them.
Be aware of the most common problems every long distance couple faces to overcome them effectively.
1. Idealizing your partner
In a long distance relationship, you and your partner can only see each other through a screen. You’re unable to know each other beyond what you willingly share, as you have no shared experiences and cannot witness each other in different social situations.
As a result of your limited understanding of your partner, you may unconsciously create an idealized version of them. You may overemphasize their positive traits and downplay their red flags.
However, this may all come crashing down when they make a mistake.
Because you hold them to such unrealistic standards, you may become disappointed when you realize they’re nothing like you imagined them to be.
That said, avoid making assumptions about your partner. Instead, ask them questions and let them tell their story. Above all, remember that they’re not perfect; no one is.
2. Having mismatched expectations
One of the root causes of long distance relationship problems is not knowing if you and your partner are going in the same direction.
For instance, you may both expect the other person to move closer to your place. Or, they might not plan on meeting you anytime soon, while you’re hoping to meet them in a few months from now.
Not meeting eye-to-eye could crush a promising start. So, express your expectations for the relationship right at the outset. This way, you can address each other’s needs and strive to accomplish the same goals.
3. Using distance as an excuse
The distance can make you work harder for the relationship. But it can also be an easy excuse to take it for granted.
For example, if you miss your regular call, you can easily refuse to drop your partner a message explaining why. Why should you when you can wait to do so on the next day’s call?
Or perhaps it’s your partner’s birthday. It’s easy not to do something special for them when the distance “hinders” your plans.
However, a long distance relationship can only thrive through mutual effort. Be willing to go the extra mile and be creative to assure your partner of your love despite the distance.
Problems Are Part of the Journey
Long distance relationship problems are part of your journey. Don’t be afraid when the road becomes bumpy.
Instead, learn to be patient with each other as you work through your challenges and misunderstandings. It might take hard work, but if you’re both committed, you’ll experience better love than you imagined.
Source:
Earthweb, 17 LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP STATISTICS IN 2024: THE HARSH FACTS
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