DATING ADVICE FOR MEN
3 Effective Dating Advice That Men Often Overlook
If you are dating, were dating, or want to date soon, you have probably scoured the Internet looking for the best advice. However, with mountains of articles on the subject, you may feel confused or jaded.
Avoid getting overloaded with information that can be more or less useful by getting to the bottom of things. With a strong foundation, you will have a better chance of building the right relationship.
In other words, before occupying yourself with the dos and don’ts of dating, focus on preparing your heart and mind — two aspects men like you often overlook.
Effective dating isn’t only about charming your date with your appearance; it’s about knowing who you are and what you want.
Here are three pieces of advice you may want to apply in the dating scene.
1. Know your worth.
Dating starts with yourself. However, it’s not about making yourself attractive or building your net worth. Instead, it’s about knowing your value beyond your looks and achievements.
If you know your inherent worth, you won’t need external validation. You won’t enter a relationship only to make yourself feel valued and whole. That alone prevents many toxic tendencies, like codependency or manipulation.
Also, because you accept and love yourself, you’ll attract people who do the same. This means you’ll only meet people who are similarly ready to give and receive love.
2. Make the first move.
Asking a woman out can take a lot of courage. Often, your fear of rejection holds you back.
What if she doesn’t like me? What should I do if she rejects me?
But if you don’t do it, nothing else will happen. How else will you know the answers to these questions unless you ask?
Avoid being like some guys who muster all their energy into pining after a woman and never pursue progress.
While it can feel like a life-or-death situation, the truth is that asking a woman out won’t kill you. Instead, it can be one of the most liberating experiences.
It frees you from your anxious thoughts and makes you feel in control. Instead of being stuck in the middle, you can take another step depending on her answer — move on and find new love if you get rejected or enter a relationship if she reciprocates your feelings and intentions.
So, prepare your heart to hear her response. Whatever she says, you’re in a win-win situation — that’s effective dating.
Moreover, women appreciate it the most when you take the courage to approach them first because it shows your sincere and clear intentions toward them.
3. Focus on building a friendship.
Sure, you want to win her over. However, stop impressing her with magic tricks and an exaggerated version of yourself.
Pursue her by building a friendship. Get to know each other, spend time together, have fun, and share what’s happening in each other’s lives.
By nurturing a friendship, you allow each other to fairly assess your compatibility for a relationship.
Effective Dating is Dating with Purpose
Why are you dating? It’s to enter a relationship with the woman you love, right?
Given this greater purpose, here’s the best dating advice for men:
Think deeper, not just about what to wear for your date or how to charm her. Prepare your heart and mind — two aspects that hold much weight to your dating experience, yet men like you often overlook.
Let the points I mentioned serve as your guide.
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