REALITIES
Do Looks Matter to Women? If Not, What Attracts Them?
Does a man need to be handsome to attract a woman?
This question has caused a lot of stress for men. Some get intimidated, cowering away from the dating field. Others get obsessed with their looks or bodybuilding, thinking this is the only way to impress a lady.
With the predominance of Prince Charming and chiseled superheroes, we can’t blame them for believing such assumptions.
But in reality, do looks matter to a woman? Is there indeed a little chance for an average-looking man to get the girl? Or are they worrying themselves for nothing?
Popular media might be big on good looks. But it’s a different story when it comes to reality.
Looks Can Make a Difference, But ___
When you first meet someone, the first thing that you notice about them is their appearance. So whether you like it or not, how you look affects much of a person’s first impression of you.
Your physical features can reflect your racial or cultural background, hygiene, and values. Meanwhile, the length of your hair and how you dress can reflect your personality.
You could be the sweetest gentleman. But if you come on a first date looking like you haven’t showered for days, it’s not surprising that a woman won’t want to see you a second time. Because of this, it makes sense to make an effort to make yourself presentable.
In this aspect, conventionally handsome men may have an advantage since they don’t need to make so much fuss about their visuals.
However, first impressions are not enough to make an attraction last. They can arouse interest, but when a woman looks at the bigger picture, they weigh little on why they should stay for good.
Other factors are more crucial in determining if someone is worth dating and eventually marrying.
In the Long Run, It’s Not Looks that Matter
Physical appearance can affect first impressions, but do looks matter in the long run?
As mentioned, they can get you some attention, but it takes more than a handsome face to make a woman stay. Why? Because the more you get to know someone, the less appearance matters.
Women fall in love for whatever reason but stay in love because of their partner’s sincerity.
When a man seriously commits to a relationship, he strives to nurture intimacy and resolve conflicts. Good looks don’t contribute to that, but personality and maturity do.
Moreover, women look for stability and inner qualities when considering a long-term relationship. They want a confident and decisive partner to feel a sense of security.
They also want someone hard-working, responsible, patient, and who can be a protector and provider for her and their future family.
Other factors in a lasting relationship include compatibility, mutual effort, and fidelity. In the long run, these truly make or break a relationship.
Do Looks Matter? Not in Serious Relationships
Gorgeous looks could make any woman swoon, but if they’re searching for a serious relationship, they’re not looking for eye candy.
So, if you think you’re an average-looking man, don’t believe you have zero chance with a lady.
Take the courage and let her get to know you. Ultimately, who you truly are can attract her more than superficial charms ever could.
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