REJECTION
Dealing with Rejection: How to Not Lose Hope in Love
Falling in love is a risk. Once you take the plunge, there are only two outcomes: you get together or you get rejected.
Everyone wishes for the former. However, the latter scenario happens more often than you expect.
And when it does, you sink into the most terrible thoughts. You’re heartbroken, your insecurities surface, and the world seems like it’s crashing down on you.
This makes dealing with rejection one of the toughest parts of dating. But the silver lining is that it doesn’t end there.
No matter how unpleasant it is, rejection is a necessary phase. Once you’re over it, you’ll be up on your feet and dating again.
However, knowing how to handle rejection is crucial to moving on.
Here are some ways to cope healthily, turning rejection into a growth opportunity rather than a death sentence.
1. Accept the Rejection
The first step in dealing with rejection is to accept it. Accept that the person you like has decided not to pursue a relationship with you, regardless of their reason.
Feel the sadness and mourn the loss. Be patient with yourself as you do so, and avoid denial.
Above all, don’t try to change their mind. That will only make things worse. Respect their decision, and respect yourself. You deserve someone who will love you in return.
2. Don’t Let It Define Your Worth
A rejection might tell you that you’re unlovable, lacking, and unworthy. But the reality is that another person or their words do not define your value.
Moreover, the problem often doesn’t lie in you. Sometimes, the person who rejected you is just looking for something else or isn’t ready for a relationship. So, distance yourself from their rejection and reasons.
Know that your worth is inherent; no one can take that away, not even someone you like.
3. Focus on the Good Things in Your Life
The person who rejected you is just one out of hundreds. Sure, they might be extra special because you like them romantically. But they’re not the only great person in your life. And that possible relationship with them isn’t the only amazing relationship you will ever have.
Focusing too much on your rejection could narrow your perspective on life. Open your eyes and appreciate the good things you already have.
One may have said “no” to you, but don’t forget the wonderful people who truly value you.
4. See It as a Redirection
Rejection does not equate to failure. It’s a signpost that says you’re going the wrong way.
The point of dating is to find the right person for you. And if someone doesn’t see you’re the right one for them, that means they’re not for you, too.
Rejection then becomes a redirection. It’s a blessing in disguise because now, there’s one less person out of your way towards the right one.
Rejection Isn’t the End of Your Story
As one song by Adele goes, “Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead.”
And when it ends with rejection, it does hurt badly. However, that’s not the end of your story. It just closes one door, but the journey continues.
Dealing with rejection the right way will help you heal, learn from that painful experience, and be better prepared for the right love coming your way.
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